Taken from life. “I have devoted my whole life to children”: now, when I want to rest, they make me look after my grandchildren

I sat at the kitchen table, looking at the phone. < img src = "https://zycie.news/crrops/56d09e/620x0/1/0/2024/11/29/0lssoddhxXVujm0beh0beh46nkl9b21wop20tnmcxhphph.jpg" alt = "old lady @pexels" styles = "background-color: rgba (122,110,115.1)" > < p > I just talked to C & Amp; Oacute; She screamed. She was furious. She told me that I was an egoist.

< p > because I had to deal with her children.

< p > I devoted my whole life to my family. < p > When Kasia was born, I quit my job to be with her at all the time. Then Tomek was born, and my life turned into an endless list of duties & oacute; w. Cooking, laundry, cleaning, lessons, crying, diseases, sleepless nights. < p > m & oacute; Jer worked, earned money. And I ?

< p > I was the one who devoted everything to everything.

< p > I didn't complain. I thought that this is what the mother's life looks like.

< p > but when the children adult and moved out, I was hoping that now m & oacute; j time.

< P >I dreamed of resting. Can go to the sea, sign up for a painting course, read a book in peace.

< p > I had no idea that for my children I would still be just a babysitter. < p > first it was subtle. < p > — Mom, you could pick up Ola from kindergarten ? sp < p > — Mom, you could stay with Winnie for the weekend ? We want to go out with my husband. < p > I always agreed. After all, what a problem is the help of & oacute; c children ?

< p > but then it was no longer a request.

< p > it became a duty.

< p > — Mom, you have time. This is not a problem for you to take care of your grandchildren.

< p > — Mom, I don't understand why you resist. It is normal that grandma helps.

< p > — Mom, how can you be so selfish ?!

< p > and I sat and listened to these words with oacute; in the growing b & oacute; lem in the heart.

< p > I devoted everything to them.

< p > I gave them my whole life. < p > And now, when I wanted a moment for myself, they treated me like a lazy parasite, which & oacute; ry does not want & bdquo; to fulfill the duties of & oacute; in grandmother & rdquo;. > < p > today I said: & no. < p > I won't be a nanny every day.

< p > I will not give up my own life.

< p > I will not let my children take my next years, just as they took my youth from me.

< p > and you know what I heard ?

< p > — If you do not want to help your family, do not count that we will help you when you are old.

< p > I look at the phone.

< p > silence.

< p > children were offended.

< p > Maybe they will never speak.

< p > but for the first time in many years I feel something new. < p > freedom.