Real Life. “My Sister Got Married and Had a Baby”: Parental Support Has Become Absurd

About 8 years ago, my sister got married after dating her boyfriend for a year, and shortly after, they had a daughter.

My sister was 20 at the time, and I was 13, and we lived with my parents. After my sister had a baby, my parents, especially my mother, stayed at home with her all the time, helping with housework and taking care of the baby.

At first, it was understandable, because my sister and her husband were inexperienced. But when my nephew was born three years later, nothing changed. My mother still spent most of her time at their house, and the children stayed with us every weekend. The day I graduated from high school, no one came to my graduation.

A month later, I moved 300 kilometers away, started college, and for more than three years, my mother visited me only a few times, my father – never. They have always been more interested in my sister's children… What's more, my parents have been constantly supporting my sister financially, to the point that my father is thinking of selling their apartment to help her pay off her debts.

But the strangest thing is that my mother, who has health problems, and my father, who has worked hard all his life, do not receive any gratitude from my sister's family. Despite my love for my sister and nephews, it is hard for me to watch this situation.

My sister and her husband do not hesitate to take advantage of my parents' generosity, showing no gratitude or respect. My conversations with my sister lead to arguments, and our mother stubbornly does not want to stop helping, considering it her duty.

Although my sister is older than me and theoretically should be smarter, I often see in her more cunning than true wisdom. From a young age, she was able to manipulate her parents to gain their attention and favor. I often observed how her persuasive skills brought her benefits that passed me by.

Maybe that's why, compared to her, I am more independent and self-reliant. In situations where she was able to get what she wanted from others, I learned to rely on myself. Sometimes I wonder if her cunningness is really wisdom or simply the ability to adapt to the situation. Perhaps both paths lead to similar results, but differ in the way they are achieved.

I visit them less often now, feeling uneasy in my own home where everything revolves around my sister and nephews. Being there now is like living in a madhouse…

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