Real Life. “My Husband Is Jealous of Me Because of My Ex”: How Can I Avoid This Since We Have a Child Together

My relationship with my husband is getting worse month by month.

He is jealous of me because I often communicate with my ex. My husband wants me to stop communicating, but how can I do that when we are connected not only by the past but also by our child?

My ex and I broke up very peacefully. There were no arguments, no betrayals, no mudslinging. We both simply realized that our relationship was no longer useful and we no longer wanted to spend time together or share a bed.

That is why we decided that before we started fighting out of frustration, we should get a divorce. Our son was five years old at the time of the divorce. He is very attached to both me and my ex-husband.

We decided that my son would stay with me, but his father would always be able to contact him and take him on visits. I wanted the divorce to be as painless as possible for the child. Four years have passed since the divorce. During that time, my ex and I had already established the framework of our contact, the procedure for raising the child together, and settled financial issues. There were no major disagreements, and my son spent almost the same amount of time with each of us.

A year and a half ago, I met a man. He got along well with my son, didn't try to be a father to him, but didn't treat him indifferently either. He also didn't stammer about my regular communication with my ex, and we only brought it up once. I told him how the divorce went and what our relationship was like now. My ex didn't interfere with my personal life, at that time he had been living with a woman for a year. We didn't interfere in that area of ​​life, having agreed that our halves shouldn't interfere in our son's life.

I got married a year ago. My son took it well, as did my ex. I didn't expect any problems, in my opinion everything had been discussed before, all the dots had been put, but after a while my husband started showing signs of dissatisfaction when he noticed that I was communicating with my ex. We were in regular contact, because we had to solve some financial, logistical and other issues. My ex didn't pay alimony, he just contributed equally to the child's support. So we discussed every major purchase with him. We also talked on the phone about who would pick up our son from school, take him to his hobby club, do his homework, and where he would be on the weekends.

When I noticed my husband was upset, I explained to him what we were talking about and even gave him our correspondence to read so he would not be confused about the direction of the conversation. That helped for a while, but then my husband's upset hit him with new force. He became psychotic, asking in a mocking tone if he was disturbing our family and when he should pack up to make room for my ex. “You keep writing to him. I can't believe you can't sort everything out with a conversation once a week! It's impossible, because both my ex and I have jobs that change frequently.

Jealousy has exhausted me, I don't want to explain the same thing ten times, I'm not a parrot. Of course, it's a shame to waste your time, but what can you do?

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