The house looked different than when I left it.
When I got off the bus, my heart was beating faster than ever before. I was returning home after twenty years of working in Germany. I had two suitcases in my hands – one filled with gifts for my family, the other with memories and hopes. I missed them every day. I had built their future with my hard work, sending money every month so that they would lack nothing.
The house looked different than when I left it. The roof was new, the garden was manicured, everything was well-kept. Then I thought: “It was worth it”. I entered the yard with a smile, imagining the joy in the eyes of my wife and children when they saw me.
My wife, Ewa, opened the door. Her gaze was cold, as if she was looking at a stranger. For a moment I thought she might not recognize me. After all, so much time had passed. But instead of joy in her eyes I saw indifference.
– You're back,– she said briefly, and then turned away, leaving me alone on the threshold.
I went inside. The house I had built with all of us in mind now seemed cold and alien. My children, now adults, sat in the living room in front of the television. They glanced at me briefly, without a smile, without a word of greeting. As if I were just a shadow.
– Hi, kids, I said, trying to sound cheerful. – I brought you something from Germany!
But they just shrugged. My son, Krzysiek, didn't even look up from the screen. Daughter, Anya, got up and went to her room, saying a quick “thanks, dad.”
This was not how I had imagined this day. In my dreams, I would be returning to my family, who were waiting for me with open arms. I had imagined that we would sit down at the table, talk about everything I had missed all these years. But the reality was completely different.
In the evening, over dinner, I tried to strike up a conversation.
– How have things been for you over the years? – I asked.
Ewa shrugged.
– We were coping. We got used to you not being there.
That one sentence was like a blow. „We got used to you not being there.” Was I just a wallet that added to their account every month? Had my place in this family really ceased to exist?
– But everything I did was for you – I said, feeling my voice tremble. – I devoted my whole life so that you could have a better life.
Krzysiek looked at me with a cold gaze.
– A better life? Maybe it would be better if you were here instead of just sending money. You didn't go to my graduation, my wedding, you didn't see your grandchildren born. Now you come back and think everything will be like it was before?
I didn't know what to say. All these years I thought I was doing what was best for my family. But their words made me realize something else – all this time I was building their life, but I wasn't a part of it.
I spent the night in the guest room. My room. A place that used to be mine, but now it had become alien. I could hear laughter from the living room, conversations I didn’t participate in. My family went on with their lives as if I had never been there.
Was it worth it? Could the money I sent them replace me as a father and husband? Maybe my place in this family had been lost with each passing year spent abroad.
But I was certain of one thing – I couldn’t give up. The next day I woke up early and started making breakfast. I knew that rebuilding my relationship with my family would take time. I might never be able to get back what I had lost. But if there was anything I could do, it was to try. Maybe I can fill this void that I created myself.
Because love, even if hurt and forgotten, still deserves a second chance.
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