From real life. “My son and daughter-in-law didn't invite us to their wedding”: Then they were offended that we didn't give them money

My son got married quite late. Before that, he and Ala had been living together for two years.

I can't say I was completely happy with his choice, but I could see that they got along and that she was a very good housewife. I tried to treat her kindly and didn't bother their family with advice.

I knew perfectly well that, first of all, Marcin was a grown man and knew what he was doing. Secondly, it was time to start having children. I even scolded him a few times for not taking his girlfriend to the registry office. He joked and said that everything would happen soon. But my mother's heart still ached. Three weeks ago, they suddenly decided to fly to the islands. They said they wanted to relax. My husband and I looked at each other in surprise. Not to save money for the wedding. But we didn't say anything. Especially since our son had recently been taking our morality with a pinch of salt.

A few days after they left, we went outside to walk the dog. At some point, we both received a message on our phones. I decided to watch it at home, and my husband couldn't resist. Renia, just look at this!” he exclaimed. I came closer. On the screen was a photo of Marcin and Alicja's wedding ceremony. They were wearing their best clothes and exchanging rings. I was stunned, how is that possible? My own son, my daughter-in-law… Not a word… We understood that they had not gone on vacation, but to a wedding.

They were accompanied by a familiar couple, so they didn't go there alone. After consulting, we decided not to give them anything as a wedding gift, since they didn't think it was necessary to inform us. It wasn't revenge, but a lesson in education. It hurt me very much that they invited their friends, but not their closest ones. After all, we could have gone to Cuba for a few days at our own expense to be there for such an important moment. We decided to spend the money we had saved on a wedding for our grandson or granddaughter. The couple returned happy. The son talked to his wife and friends the whole way. He only said a few words to his father. It looked as if he had been with him for ten days and hadn't seen his friends for a long time.

The next day they came to visit with a cake and a bottle of champagne. My husband ran to the store to buy a bouquet for his daughter-in-law, and I prepared dinner. When the couple arrived, we handed them the bouquet and greeted them only with kind words. Then Marcin seemed to be waiting for something else, he was in no hurry to sit down at the holiday table.

He was probably counting on a present. He knew that we had been saving money for his wedding for a long time, and the amount was already quite large by that time. I can't help but feel that in this way he showed us how little we mattered to him. He dropped in a few times for tools and acted as if nothing had happened. During one of these visits, the son said that before their deaths, Ali's parents had opened an account in their daughter's name with a large sum of money with which they wanted to buy a nice car. He was probably suggesting that it would be nice for us to participate financially in the life of the young family.

I pretended not to understand the allusion and simply praised the foresight of my daughter-in-law's parents. The son went home offended. I don't think we did anything wrong. We have always treated our daughter-in-law very well and we should certainly be present at such an important event. I would like him to understand the inappropriateness of his actions. He is no longer a little boy, he is a grown man. Would he really want his own children to do the same to him someday?

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