From real life. “My mother was angry with me for asking my sister to leave her mother-in-law's apartment”: I think I did the right thing

My father left my mother with three children; I was 14, my brother 10, and my sister 7.

It was very difficult for my mother, we lived in a two-room apartment. It was good that it belonged to my mother and she didn't have to think about the apartment. As far back as I can remember, my mom was always at work, she would come home late, cook dinner for us, I would help with that, then we would go to bed and she would still do laundry and clean, I understand how hard it was for her with three kids.

After school, I didn't go to work, as my mother expected, but to college. My mother was unhappy, she said it would be better if I went somewhere to work so she wouldn't have to support all of us. Then I found a part-time job and started earning money for myself so my mother wouldn't have to spend money on me.

That's when I met Wojtek, who lived in an apartment with his mother. We dated for three months and I realized that this was the person I wanted to live with. Wojtek asked me to marry him, but I didn't want to live with his mother. My mother-in-law understood me and we all decided to take out a loan for the apartment: my mother-in-law was going to work in Italy; she said she would rent her two-room apartment for now and we would use the money to pay off the loan.

My mother-in-law is a very nice woman and I am grateful to her, she helped us a lot. My mother often called me, saying that my brother had gotten married and brought his daughter-in-law home, she asked me to help her, but I had a loan to pay off; I said I couldn't give her the money.

Later I gave birth to a daughter, we paid off the mortgage without any problems and generally we lived well. Sometimes my mother-in-law would come to visit us from Italy, stay for a week, bring us various gifts, sometimes help us financially. My husband's mother helped us a lot. And then my mother-in-law's sister died, she had no children, so she left her one-room apartment to her sister, my husband's mother.

My mother-in-law was in the process of arranging inheritance, she was staying with us. That evening my mother also visited us. When she found out about the apartment, she asked the matchmaker to let my sister live there because she was getting married and expecting a baby and had nowhere to live.

I didn't want my mother-in-law to agree, but my husband's mother took pity on my family and let my sister Natalia into the apartment. But I immediately told my sister that my husband's mother would come back from Italy and move into this apartment, so they had to think about their own apartment and save money while they lived here. Natalia gave birth to a son, who later went to kindergarten, and she went to work.

Everything seemed to be going according to plan, but then my husband's mother came back and said that she was 65 years old and it was hard to take care of the elderly. I immediately called my sister and told her to move out of the apartment in a month. My sister didn't say a word, she hung up. Then my mother came to us and asked me to leave my sister alone because she was expecting a second child and had nowhere to go.

I explained that she should have thought about it earlier and not put her problems on someone else. Natalia went back to her mother. Now everyone is angry with my husband and me. My mother says that because of me she now lives in the kitchen, when we have three apartments; she says that I have no conscience; she hoped that I would help her, and in all these years I have not given her a penny. And I think my mother is to blame: she taught her adult children that she has to support them.

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