From life. “After many years of marriage, my husband left me for a 40-year-old woman”: It was only at that moment that I felt that I was happy

My husband left me and went to another woman. You probably think I'm crying. No, I'm not.

My ex-husband is 60 and I'm 58. I sat down and thought. And I realized something important: all these years I haven't lived properly.

People often ask me if I have a man in my life. I don't want to start a new relationship. My biggest mistake was that I didn't love myself. I took care of my husband, children, I looked after them. I wanted to be a good wife. I thought I had to cook, do laundry, listen, be submissive. But I learned that no one needs that. A woman has to be a little selfish.

You have to demand, express your desires. They say that a man is the head of the family. I don't deny it. A man thinks he is the king and his wife is the servant. But he forgets one important thing: next to the king there has to be a queen. I devoted all my time to my husband. I forgot about myself, about my interests. You should always have your own life, your own hobbies.

Then there would be more respect and fear of losing me. If he decides to leave, you have to let him. There is no need to beg him or force him to stay. You don't have to beg him to save your family or do it for the sake of your children. You don't have to worry about what others will think. If he left, it means you have to take a breath and enjoy your life. And most importantly, you don't have to forgive him if he comes back and asks for it. He doesn't deserve forgiveness.

He decided to leave and he has to take responsibility for it. Anyone who cheats once will cheat again and again. I don't advise you to start a new relationship to avoid loneliness. Don't be afraid of loneliness. Being alone has its advantages. First, you can do whatever you want, and second, you live for yourself and enjoy the day. It's better to be alone than to be an empty space or a servant.

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