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We often hear about the all-consuming power of love, about the desire to always be with our other half. It's a wonderful feeling, but it's worth knowing where the line really is between healthy attachment and complete dissolution in a partner.
This is discussed on the Psychological Support platform.
Dissolution in a partner occurs when:
- You lose interest in your own hobbies. You prefer his hobbies and friends, even if you don't like them.
- Your own desires and needs are suppressed.You are afraid to offend your partner, express your opinion or defend your boundaries.
- You forget about yourself. You lose your individuality, trying to meet his expectations.
- You spend all your free time together. You refuse to meet with your old friends, acquaintances, family, neglecting your own affairs.
What can it turn into?
- Losing yourself. A person becomes a shadow of their partner, losing their own identity.
- Burnout. Constant adaptation to other people's needs is emotionally and physically exhausting.
- Dependence on his attention and approval, fear of possible loneliness. li>
- Conflicts. Repressed emotions and unspoken claims will explode sooner or later.
What to do?
1. Remember yourself. You are an individual with your own interests, desires and needs. And that's how they loved you!
2. Don't be afraid to talk about your feelings. Open communication – is the basis of any healthy relationship.
3. Leave time for yourself. Take up hobbies, meet friends, develop. This way you will always be an independent person who is interesting to others and, above all, to yourself.
4. Set boundaries. Don't let other people use you, dictate to you how you should look, what to do and what opinion to express.
5. Don't be afraid to be lonely. Loneliness – is not a sentence, but an opportunity to get to know yourself better, and then, if you want, build a truly harmonious relationship.
So value yourself, your desires and needs — This is how you can have a relationship in which each partner will be happy and fulfilled. Remember, you deserve a love that supports your personality and helps you not to dissolve, but to blossom!