The Best Version of Ourselves: Can We Be Perfect?

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Often we try to fit ourselves into an ideal world created by society or our own expectations. We strive to get rid of everything that we consider flaws and leave only the “best version of ourselves”. But such a one-sided picture does not correspond to the multifaceted nature of man.

We should accept the fact that we can be caring and selfish, intelligent and vulnerable at the same time. And this is absolutely normal.

It is worth remembering that:

• We have the right to make mistakes. To be perfect – this is a myth. Errors – it is an experience that helps us grow.
• We can be different. Today we are energetic and active, and tomorrow – we just want to rest. And this does not mean that we are weak or lazy.
• We have the right to change. Our values, views, desires can change over time. And this is a natural process.

Acknowledging and accepting your flaws is an important step toward self-acceptance and personal growth.

Here are some strategies that can help you recognize and accept your flaws as part of who you are. :

1. Understanding your “shadows”. Each of us has different aspects of personality – the so-called shadows, which we usually do not recognize or try to hide. However, traits such as selfishness or jealousy are part of our nature. Try to explore how these traits affect your life. Perhaps selfishness – it is not a disadvantage at all, but something that prompts you to take care of your own needs in order to improve your well-being.

2. Accepting mistakes as part of experience. Each of us makes mistakes, and that's okay. Admitting your mistakes and learning from them helps you grow and develop.

3. The practice of unconditional self-acceptance. True self-acceptance – it's when you don't let your flaws define your worth as a person. When you realize that your flaws don't make you any less valuable. This will help increase self-esteem and reduce internal criticism.

4. Seek support. Discussing your shortcomings with loved ones or a therapist can lessen their impact on you and help you find new ways to accept them.

5. Reflection and self-observation. Write down thoughts and feelings about your shortcomings. Try to answer: why you feel certain emotions and how they affect your life. Keeping a journal will help you track your progress in self-acceptance.

Accept your contradictions – this is the way to a deeper understanding of oneself and development. Allow yourself to be yourself: accept flaws as part of who you are. Create your own space where you can be yourself without restrictions.