My husband recently said a wonderful sentence that perfectly reflects his true attitude towards me.
He said he wouldn't consult me about the family budget because I'm at home on maternity leave and don't earn anything.
For some reason he forgot that part of the expenses covers the rent on my apartment. I am currently on maternity leave. My son will soon be a year and a half old, so I will stay at home for the same amount of time.
If I had the opportunity to leave my child with grandparents, I would gladly go back to work, but what's not, is not. My husband and I live in an apartment that belongs to him. It's more conveniently located – it's easy for my husband to get to work without changing cars, and I can go to the pediatric clinic, which has also been very pleasant for the past year and a half. But I also have my own apartment, which we've been successfully renting out since we moved in together.
Incidentally, I earn quite a good amount of money. If it weren't for that, I probably wouldn't have risked going on maternity leave. My husband works, he's not lazy. I also worked before maternity leave and sometimes I managed to earn more than my husband. We have a contract at work, so after successfully closing the contracts there is a chance for a decent bonus.
Of course, I didn't announce it because I thought my husband would be unhappy. When I found out I was pregnant, I first started wondering if I could afford maternity leave so I wouldn't have to count my pennies. I grew up in a very poor family, so it was important to me that my child wouldn't have the same problems I did.
I added up my benefits, my husband's salary, the money from renting the apartment, and I was happy.
Initially, my husband followed the rules, but for half a year I've been fighting with him because all my planning is wasted because he forgot something or didn't even think it was appropriate to inform me about his purchases, which are very noticeable. I put it off several times, trying to keep the peace in the family, patiently explaining that there was no money.
The last time the argument turned into a scandal:
-You're on maternity leave and you don't earn anything. Why would I ask you anything or explain myself to you? – my husband snapped at me.
-Maybe because we have a joint budget, which includes my money? For example, the rent from my apartment. Without it, it would be pretty bad.
My husband started arguing that the money from renting my apartment can't be considered my money, because I didn't earn it myself. And he reminded me that we live in his apartment. Where else are I and the child supposed to live? And what kind of strange logic is that, we haven't agreed on anything.
My husband sticks to his position — looking for a job, she doesn't have to ask me and account for her expenses. My income isn't really my income, so it doesn't count because I don't work, I just stay at home with my child. The apartment rents itself, without my effort. Now I'm wondering what to do. If I evict the tenants, I won't have anything to live on, because I'm still on maternity leave.
I'm talking to my boss now and if he lets me work remotely, without sticking to a schedule, I'll evict the tenants and move in. If not, I'll think about it further. I'm not thinking about divorce yet, but I really need to shake him up before he goes too far.
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