I have always tried to be a good mother. One that does not assess, does not impose, but supports. < img src = "https://zycie.news/crrops/363521/620x0/1/0/2021/04/06/3cwbltcjslslslsumvikisfkwbud8qw3lygh5x9x7Oxr.png" alt = "communion. Source: YouTube Stanisław Straż" styles = "background-color: rgba (161,141,129.1)" > < p > When my c & oacute; I became a mother, I told myself that now my role would be a grandmother — wise, present and warm. I did not think that the day would come when the same c & oacute; Rka would treat me like an ATM without borders.

< p > The first communion of my granddaughter was approaching. The granddaughter was taken over, happy. M & oacute; about a dress, a wreath, with white gloves. I was also happy. I wanted pom & oacute; c.

< p > I proposed: < br />< br /> & mdash; & AMP; BDQUO; I will add to accept. I know it is a considerable expense. & Amp;

< p > c & oacute; do not refuse. On the contrary, — accepted the proposal with a relief.

< p > — & AMP; Bdquo; Mom, thank you. Half the cost & oacute; in this huge help. & Amp;

< P >I didn't ask how much exactly. I poured what I could. Because it's a granddaughter. A child who loves like my own. Week p & oacute; < p > — & bdquo; and a gift. We are thinking about the iPhone & rsquo; eM or a gold chain with diamond. & Amp; rdquo;

< p > I was & oacute; I saw.

< p > — & AMP; BDQUO; but I already help with the reception & & &

< p > looked at me as if she didn't understand what I meant.

< p > — & AMP; Bdquo; Mom, but it's communion. Shame not to give something decent. Everyone gives. & Amp; Rdquo;

< p > — & but I don't have such money. ” < p > shrugged.

< p > — & bdquo; maybe you shouldn't have agreed to participate in costs, since you can't afford a gift. ” < p > these words hit me like a stone straight into my heart. Not because I didn't have money. But because suddenly I stopped being a grandmother, a mother, a woman, and I only became a source of money, which & oacute; & Hellip; I have never had much.

< p > I sat in the kitchen, alone. I looked at the old photo of C & Amp; Oacute; Rki from her communion. That modest day, white sweater, ordinary booklet and a small silver medal. And was happy.

< p > and now ?

< p > Does everything have to have a tag and logo to have a value ? I don't know what my granddaughter will give. Maybe a book with a dedication. Maybe a medal that she once wore her mother.

< p > will not shine like gold from the catalog. But it will be real. From the heart.

< p > and if one day, as an adult woman, he will understand — maybe he will say his c & oacute; rce:

< p > — & AMP; Bdquo; Your great -grandmother was not rich. But she loved me like no other.

Natasha Kumar

By Natasha Kumar

Natasha Kumar has been a reporter on the news desk since 2018. Before that she wrote about young adolescence and family dynamics for Styles and was the legal affairs correspondent for the Metro desk. Before joining The Times Hub, Natasha Kumar worked as a staff writer at the Village Voice and a freelancer for Newsday, The Wall Street Journal, GQ and Mirabella. To get in touch, contact me through my natasha@thetimeshub.in 1-800-268-7116