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Take control of your life: set clear boundaries

Natasha Kumar By Natasha Kumar Jul11,2024

Take control of your life: set clear boundaries

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At work, colleagues dump their work on you, at home parents constantly demand something from you, and friends endlessly need your attention or help? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, then your boundaries are probably violated.

In a new material, RADIO MAXIMUM describes how to set clear boundaries in relationships with other people. This is stated on the Psychological Support platform.

Personal boundaries– these are the imaginary boundaries you draw around yourself. You must have secure physical boundaries – your personal space that you don't want others to violate.

Emotional boundaries – your feelings and emotions that you don't want to share with others. Mental boundaries – your thoughts, beliefs and values ​​that you don't want others to question. Sexual boundaries – your comfort with physical touch and sexual intimacy.

This is critical because they:

  • Give you a sense of control over your by life You decide who to communicate with, when and how.
  • Protect against exploitation. You do not allow other people to use you or force you to do things that you don't like.
  • Maintain mental and emotional health. Clear boundaries help you avoid stress, anxiety and burnout.
  • Help build healthy relationships. When you respect your own and other people's boundaries, it promotes trust and understanding.

Some people may not realize that they are violating your boundaries. , when asking for help or sharing their thoughts and feelings. Someone is deliberately manipulating you. And sometimes the reason is your excessive kindness or upbringing, which simply does not allow you to say “no”.

How to protect yourself?

1. Define your boundaries
What are you willing to do, and what are you not? What are your priorities? Feel free to explain them to others. Use firm but respectful wording, such as: “I'm uncomfortable when…”, “I don't want…”, “I'm asking you…”.

2. Learn to say no
It's not selfish, it's perfectly normal to put your needs first. You do not need to make excuses or explain the reasons for your refusal. The world is waiting for your clear and concise “no”.

3. Be firm in your boundaries
If the person insists, make it clear to them that you will not change their mind.

4. Don't be afraid of conflicts
Sometimes conflicts are inevitable, but that's normal – stand up for yourself If the person continues to violate your boundaries, explain to them what the consequences will be: limiting communication, abandoning joint plans, or even ending the relationship.

5. Don't feel guilty
You don't have to do something you don't like or that burdens you because it's just bad for you.

6. Seek support
Talk to friends, family members or a therapist about how you're feeling.

Remember, you have the power to make a difference. You deserve to be respected and valued. Believe in yourself and don't give up!

Natasha Kumar

By Natasha Kumar

Natasha Kumar has been a reporter on the news desk since 2018. Before that she wrote about young adolescence and family dynamics for Styles and was the legal affairs correspondent for the Metro desk. Before joining The Times Hub, Natasha Kumar worked as a staff writer at the Village Voice and a freelancer for Newsday, The Wall Street Journal, GQ and Mirabella. To get in touch, contact me through my 1-800-268-7116

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