Self-confident people never say these 7 phrases

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Language is not only a way of communication, but also a reflection internal state. People with high self-esteem carefully monitor what and how they say, because even a few words can ruin the impression about them.

Telegram channel “Start Something!” drew attention to 7 phrases that we will never hear from the mouths of self-confident people. A guide to get to know them and get rid of your lexicon.

1. “Sorry, sorry, sorry again”

The ability to admit mistakes and apologize is an important trait. However, apologizing frequently, especially in situations where you are not at fault, looks like a sign of insecurity.

Example:If you accidentally push someone on public transport, an apology is appropriate. But when you apologize for simply expressing your opinion, it can look weak.

2. “Probably”/”I think”

These words, like “probably,” “might be,” or “like,” create a sense of uncertainty. They are often used by those who are afraid to be categorical.

Tip: If you are confident in your statement, replace these words with clear statements.

3. “May I?”

In adult life, this phrase may sound too submissive. A person who constantly asks for permission seems dependent on someone else's opinion.

Example from life: Instead of “May I take this book?” try saying “I'll take this book if you don't mind”.

4. “I'm stupid, fat, incompetent”

Self-deprecating words have a destructive effect. By constantly repeating such phrases, you convince yourself of your own worthlessness.

Tip: Turn criticism into a positive. For example, instead of “I'm incompetent,” say “I'm learning and will be better.”

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5. “Yes, yes, of course, right now”

The eternal readiness to please someone can violate your personal boundaries. People with high self-esteem know how to say “no” when necessary.

Tip: If you have your own plans, politely say: “I need time to finish my business.”

6. “Oh, you're flattering me, I just washed my hair”

Refusal to accept compliments lowers your value in the eyes of others. People with high self-esteem say “Thank you” and smile.

Tip: Learn to accept compliments without unnecessary depreciation. For example, if someone says: “You have a great presentation”, instead of “I just put together the slides”, answer: “Thank you, I tried”.

7. “I can't, I won't be able”

These words limit your possibilities. Even if you really can't do something, it's better to say: “I'm ready to learn.”

Tip: Instead of focusing on your limitations, phrase it positively: “I I haven't studied it yet, but I'm ready to tackle it.” It shows your openness to new things and determination.

Language is a powerful tool that can work both for you and against you. If you want to improve your self-confidence, start by changing your speech. By getting rid of phrases that lower your self-esteem, you automatically change the perception of yourself by other people. Remember: words shape your reality.