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Savior syndrome is a psychological condition in which a person excessively cares about the problems of others, forgetting about his own needs. It is not so much about the desire to help as about the hidden need to control the situation and the environment.
Often behind this is the fear of loneliness, self-doubt and guilt about one's own successes. This is stated on the Psychological Support platform.
Symptoms of savior syndrome
- A person focuses on other people's problemsand feels responsible for the happiness and well-being of others. Such behavior actually gives them the opportunity to avoid their own problems and postpone their solution.
- When a person puts the needs of others before his own, it is simply a way for him to be irreplaceable. Behind this is the fear of being rejected.
- Can't say “no” even when it's uncomfortable. Not because of the desire to help, but because of the fear of conflict, because of the desire to remain good for everyone.
- Neglects his own health in order to help others: with his sacrifice, a person is actually trying to earn love.
- Constantly offers help, even when it is not asked for. For a person, this is a way to find recognition and a sense of self-importance.
- He considers himself irreplaceable in any situation due to low self-esteem and the desire to gain recognition through usefulness.
- Often assumes the role of mediator in conflicts. Such behavior allows you to keep everything under control and avoid your own negative emotions.
Causes of lifeguard syndrome
1. Lack of warmth and attention in childhood. The child compensates for the lack of care by helping others.
2. Excessive encouragement of sacrifice by parents. Lack of understanding of personal boundaries.
3. Unstable parental figures, the need to assume the role of the main one in the family. Inability to accept care.
4. Lack of fulfillment in important areas, compensating for feelings of insignificance by saving others.
5. Manipulation and guilt building in a dysfunctional family.
Rescuer syndrome can lead to burnout, depression, and relationship problems. It is important to learn to set boundaries, say “no” and take care of yourself. Helping others should be conscious, not obsessive. To get rid of the savior syndrome, it is best to consult a psychologist or psychotherapist: a specialist will help understand the causes of the syndrome and develop a strategy to overcome it.