For three years I lived in the belief that nothing could destroy it.

Real-Life Story: "I Was the Perfect Father to My Daughter": When She Was 3, I Found Out She Wasn't Mine

From the moment I saw Martynka for the first time, I knew my life had changed forever. She was so small, so delicate, and I immediately felt that I would be the best father she could ever dream of. Every smile, every first step, first word – all of this was like a reward for me, like proof that our life as a family was perfect.

For three years I lived with the conviction that nothing could destroy it. I would wake up to her at night, rock her when she cried, build towers out of blocks, and watch the same cartoons dozens of times. I was her hero, and she was my whole world. My wife, Aneta, always said that Martynka had my eyes, she said her smile. I felt proud when I heard those words.

But everything changed one day when I got a call from an old friend. Andrzej, who had been in our circle of friends for years, told me something that sounded like my worst nightmare.

– „Listen, Mateusz, you have to know that Martynka… may not be yours. Aneta had an affair when she was pregnant.”

I didn't want to believe him. How could he lie like that? But his words nested in my head. With every glance at Martynka I wondered if it was possible. After a few days I couldn't take it anymore and I asked Aneta straight in the eyes.

„Is it true? Is Martynka… can she not be mine?”

Her face paled. She was silent for a moment, then she lowered her gaze.

– “Mateusz, that was a long time ago… I don't know. I don't know what to tell you.”

Her words were like a blow to the heart. “I don't know”? How could she not know? That question destroyed everything we had built.

I decided to do a DNA test. The results came back quickly, but for me, those were the longest days of my life. When I opened the envelope, my hands were shaking. There was only one short message inside: „You are not the biological father.”

The world stopped. I couldn't breathe, think, understand how it was possible. For three years I lived a lie, and my „perfect” family turned out to be one big illusion.
Aneta tried to stop me.

– „Mateusz, please don't leave us. Martynka needs you. You are her father, no matter what these results say!”

But how could I stay? How could I go on living, knowing that the person I trusted the most betrayed me in the worst possible way? How could I look at Martynka and not feel the wound that was tearing my heart to pieces?

Today marks a year since those events. Martynka still calls me „daddy”, even though we rarely see each other. I try to be present in her life, but it's not easy. Every time I see her smile, I remember how much I loved her before the truth destroyed everything.

Do I regret? My only regret is that I believed in the illusion of a perfect family. But Martynka is not to blame for anything. And although I don't know if I'll ever trust people again, I know one thing – I will always be her father, even if only in my heart.

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Natasha Kumar

By Natasha Kumar

Natasha Kumar has been a reporter on the news desk since 2018. Before that she wrote about young adolescence and family dynamics for Styles and was the legal affairs correspondent for the Metro desk. Before joining The Times Hub, Natasha Kumar worked as a staff writer at the Village Voice and a freelancer for Newsday, The Wall Street Journal, GQ and Mirabella. To get in touch, contact me through my natasha@thetimeshub.in 1-800-268-7116