My husband and I both have children from our first marriage.
My son is 8, and my husband's children are 6 and 11. His children now live with his ex-wife. I met my husband two years ago. We got married last year. I almost never communicate with my ex-husband. Once a month I receive an agreed amount from him, which I spend on the child, and two or three times a month he takes my son to his place for the weekend.
I never demanded more money from my ex-husband, threw tantrums, pestered him with questions, or interfered in his personal life, as my current husband's ex-wife does.
My husband sends her a portion of his salary every month, an amount much larger than what my ex sends me for the child. I have never worried about it, especially since she has two children and I have one, but she always lacks the money. The most disgusting thing about this situation is that she manipulates my husband: “If you don't give me more money, you won't see the kids! His ex-wife just doesn't want to earn money on her own, she revolves around my husband and her parents.
Eventually all of these tantrums will stop once he stands up to her, but for some reason he doesn't. My husband spends every weekend with the kids, sometimes they sleep over, and he and my son get along great. Because of his ex-wife's constant demands, they communicate almost constantly. Mostly through email. I think my eye starts twitching every time I see my husband on his phone. He doesn't see anything wrong with it.
“We have to communicate somehow. We have nothing in common, but the children require constant attention,” he explained. “After all, the children see their father every weekend and we can solve their problems by limiting communication with his ex-wife to a minimum, but my husband stubbornly refused to accept my arguments. Once, after I saw that he was talking to his ex again, I simply could not contain my emotions.
I expressed everything that was boiling inside me. My husband left home at that time and stayed with a friend for a few days. I was very worried, but then we made up. I noticed that he began to communicate less with his ex-wife, but her tantrums and demands did not stop. Recently, we had the biggest fight.
My husband and I spent the whole day together, my son was taken by my mother who missed her grandson. In the evening I went to my mother's house to pick him up and on the way home we stopped at a store with my son. We were having some financial difficulties at the time, my husband had just been released from the hospital and my salary at work was delayed. We bought the necessary groceries and returned home. I noticed right away that my husband's mood had deteriorated but I didn't bother asking him any questions.
Then I heard from the next room that he was receiving messages. Then someone called him and he went out to the balcony to talk. When I entered the room, my husband admitted that it was his ex-wife who was calling. She got hysterical again and demanded money. I was outraged that he immediately transferred the money to her, even though our financial situation was very tight this month. We'll have to settle for a bun with mortadella, and he can't say no to his ex? I don't know what got into me then, but I felt so offended that I spoke again. Only this time in a very sharp way.
I really felt offended that my husband simply didn't care about us. “First sort out your former family, and then start a new one!” I said and threw him out the door. Word by word, my husband packed his things and went to his friend's house. He hasn't been home for almost a week. Now I'm worried that we might get divorced because of this fight, and I really don't want that, I love my husband. I accept his children, as I said, they get along well with my son and we communicate normally, but his ex-wife is killing me mentally.
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