What is perfectionism/Take care of yourself
Perfectionism is often perceived as a positive personality characteristic – synonymous with success, high quality standards and constant self-improvement on the way to the ideal. However, very often it brings many problems and psychological disorders to people.
Perfectionism can really motivate to the result, but it is worth considering the disadvantages of such an approach and “pitfalls”. This is stated on the Berezhya seba platform.
Perfectionism – it is the desire to be flawless, perfect in everything. Tendency to set too high standards and unrealistic expectations, accompanied by overly critical self-evaluation and emphasis on failure.
Perfectionism often becomes an obstacle in life. Because even if the desired goal is achieved, a person's mood and condition are negatively affected by constant self-criticism.
1. Exaggerated demands on oneself and the environment.
2. The desire to never make mistakes and avoid failure.
3. High self-criticism.
4. Tendency to devalue one's achievements and only temporary satisfaction with the result.
5. Procrastination.
6. Increased anxiety and often – bad mood.
7. Fear of the unknown and new experiences.
8. Excessive attention to details and doubts in the process of finding the “perfect” solution to the task.
9. Excessive control and verification of the result.
10. All-or-nothing thinking.
Modern researchers consider perfectionism as a transdiagnostic process– a phenomenon when such a way of thinking of a person can contribute to the strengthening of various mental disorders.
It is known that perfectionism can contribute to the development of depression, anxiety disorders, eating disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorder, burnout, feelings of guilt, difficulties in adaptation, etc. And also reinforces conditional self-esteem, that is, one that depends on a certain condition set by a person personally or by the environment.
This is a good reason to seek qualified psychotherapeutic help in time when perfectionism significantly affects life.
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The first step – realize the problem.
Analyze the impact of the consequences of perfectionism on your life and try to investigate what factors may have contributed to its development. List the advantages and disadvantages of perfectionism in your particular case.
Change your attitude towards mistakes.
Accepting that mistakes are a natural part of life and a way to learn, &ndash ; an important step in helping yourself.
Focus on realistic demands on yourself. Try to set achievable goals that are aligned with your values.
Reduce catastrophizing. Try to understand what exactly you fear if your performance falls short of your unrealistically high standards. What exactly can happen and how likely is it? And if it does, how can you deal with it?
Experiment with expectations.For example, you are used to setting yourself the goal of completing a task at 100%. Try to ignore this pressure on yourself and lower your target to 70-80%. This will help you realize that “disaster” will not happen if your performance is more in line with reality.
Clearly define your priorities and plan tasks taking into account the time and effort required.
Not only the goal is important, but also the path to it. Learn to enjoy the process and appreciate the present moment. Practice mindfulness regularly – the skill of directing attention to what is happening “here and now”. This will help you to be open and accepting of different experiences.
Notice self-criticism. Practice self-gratitude, self-compassion, strengthen self-kindness.
Remind yourself, what IS the decision or result – the best thing you can do in this period of life and under the circumstances you are in.
Take care of your health, well-being and adequate rest. Develop the sphere hobbies and interests, where you can switch to resource activities and give yourself space to recover.
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