I have been married to my husband for 19 years. During that time, we have seen many things, both positive and less positive.
In 19 years of marriage, we have had three children. The oldest, Irena, turned 18 this year. I want to tell you about what happened the day before her birthday. My husband and I wanted to give our daughter her share of our savings for an apartment when she turns 18. So we wanted to split it into 3 parts and give our daughter a third of it, and the younger children would get their shares on their 18th birthday.
For the sake of clarity, it is worth mentioning one interesting detail. My mother-in-law thinks that my husband and I live at his expense, but in reality we earn about the same. I do not think that a man in a family should earn more. For me, there is no such framework, but my mother-in-law does not think so. She calls my husband's children and mine only mine, and in such a tone as if I was the only one raising them. In short, my relationship with my mother-in-law was not the best.
A few days before her birthday, my husband started talking about a present for my daughter. He offered to buy an apartment with our money and register it in his mother's name. Of course, I was against it. That was the last thing we needed. To buy my mother-in-law's apartment with our money. My husband argued that we could buy an apartment with our money and register it in his mother's name, thus protecting the children because they would not be able to spend money on empty things, but they would also have peace of mind because in the future they would not be without a roof over their heads. And a bonus at the end: you can rent out your mother-in-law's apartment to tenants: this is additional income.
My husband could not convince me. Of course, I did not agree. He got offended and moved in with his mother for a few days. On my granddaughter's birthday, my mother-in-law gave her a family ring, but before my daughter could put it on, my mother-in-law began a toast about how it was hard for her as she got older, how she had little money, nothing was enough for her, and how she wouldn't mind having her beloved grandchildren help her.
At first, the children and I were surprised that my mother-in-law was treating them differently than she usually did all day. And then it happened! I explained to my children why I had turned down my father's offer to buy me an apartment. They are not little: 15, 16, and now 18, and they understood and supported me.
After my mother-in-law's toast, my daughter gave her the ring back. She stood up and gracefully walked away from the table, followed by my husband. They left, and my husband hasn't come home in a month. I'm not going to wait for him. I'm not going to give up my apartment at the expense of my children to someone who hates them.
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