Sometimes you work, everything goes fine. Suddenly, thoughts begin to appear in your head about whether you have chosen the right type of activity, whether you will be able to realize yourself in it, what is the meaning of your work and life in general. The appearance of such thoughts is the main sign of emotional burnout. Management consultant Oleksandr Vysotsky shared with LeMonade five rules that help me overcome such a state.
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Often we just don't understand that something is going wrong. Or we think that the solution lies in a completely different area: so many people decide to “cheer up'' by playing sports.
But no marathon will help you if you have emotional burnout. Unfortunately, relatives and friends are not always able to provide support in this situation. They may suggest that you take a good weekend off or take a vacation, but that won't solve the problem. It will not disappear by itself – it will not work to ignore burnout. That is why the first step is so important: to admit that you are emotionally burned out.
Determine the reason
In my experience, the cause of burnout is the loss of a purpose that you have lived for a long time. When your idea could not be implemented, achieve the desired result.
I decided to make Visotsky Consulting international and open a branch in New York. I thought that everything would be simple: I would move, I would transfer all the materials necessary for the provision of services within a year. But it turned out that it was not enough to give them to the translator – the CIS realities are different from the American ones, and therefore a lot had to be adapted. And then I didn't speak English well enough. The whole process lasted three years.
After becoming an American company, we received an offer to open a branch on the island of Taiwan. I agreed and, taking into account my previous experience, I set myself the goal of translating and adapting all the materials in five years. But we managed a little less than in two years.
I never came up with a new large-scale goal for myself, continuing to deal with current affairs. This caused burnout.
There are other reasons why it may arise: obstacles that cannot be overcome, miscalculation of forces and resources. And sometimes you can be hindered by a negative person who will devalue your idea so skillfully that you will abandon it. So be sure to identify what purpose or desire you have lost.
Restore the purpose
There are many methods and practices in this regard. But I believe that the goal is always to make a decision. Please note: the goal must evoke emotions in you, otherwise it will not be able to charge you.
When I set goals related to the development of my company, I always think: what will I personally get from achieving them? For example, trips, impressions — the emotional component is important. If you combine logic and emotions, it will be easier to realize your goal.
Make a plan
So that your goal became more real, highlight five main tasks for its implementation. Be sure to include realistic deadlines for each of them.
It is important to keep this plan short: this will improve the 'overview'. Immediately write in detail, with small subsections, otherwise it will be difficult to navigate what has already been done.
Once you have a plan, take the first steps within a few hours. This will allow you not to lose energy and inspiration.
What helps me is that I immediately tell my colleagues or family about my plan. Many have a negative attitude to this (there is even a saying: “If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans”). But I do not agree with this: on the contrary, the promises you make to others make your plans more realistic, awaken your emotions and intentions.
There is an important point: never talk about your goals and plans to people who have a negative attitude. In general, try not to surround yourself with people who devalue you. After all, if a person sees our strengths and talks about them, it makes us even stronger. But someone who emphasizes weaknesses destroys your individuality. A person is not his weaknesses and mistakes, but what helps him win and be successful.
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