MI recently contacted a young woman who was having a dispute with her oldest friend about her diet. The two had started to eat vegan when they were at school. While the friend stuck to this decision, my client recently started eating cheese, quark, and yogurt again. Her friend was amazed when she heard this. She gave her a lecture on responsibility, animal welfare and indiscipline. My client didn’t reply. “My girlfriend can argue faster anyway. I can only lose in a conversation like that, ”she said. Some people have internalized the idea that they have to endure relationships instead of influencing them.