As far back as I can remember in my childhood and adolescence, my parents were deeply indifferent to how I got to school.
I never had any complaints about it. I went to school in ninety-three, when it was not customary to walk children to the door by hand.
As far as I remember, my grandmother took me for a few weeks in September and that was it. The child memorized the route and then walked on his own. It's understandable that it was a difficult time, my parents had to earn money, not run around with me. All this makes me even more confused about what's happening to my parents now.
Last year my daughter started first grade. I have to admit that her grandparents have spoiled her terribly, they've practically kissed her ass since she was born. Ola is their only granddaughter so far. Sometimes I try to calm them down, especially my mother.
My mother has been busy with me my whole life. At first, her work was the most important thing, and then my younger brother was born. We're twelve years apart, and she enjoyed playing with him. And so did I.
When Ola started first grade, my husband took special leave in September. I work near my daughter's school. So we divided the work in the following way: I take her to school in the morning, and my husband picks her up and takes her home. For the first few days, everything was perfect. And then my husband told me that my parents were watching us! I couldn't believe it.
I wondered how it was possible? It turned out that he had noticed them several times already. Parents were not allowed to enter our school for epidemiological reasons. All the parents of the first graders were waiting for them on the playground in front of the porch. When school ended, the children would get ready and get dressed, and their loved ones would meet them at the gate. So, when he came to pick up his daughter and waited outside, he had met a familiar couple a few times. My mom and dad were walking peacefully arm in arm in the distance.
I mean, they don't approach on purpose, they just watch from a distance. That would be fine, they also live near the school. But when it happens several times in a row, it doesn't seem like a coincidence anymore, but honestly a pattern. I trust my husband. And I have a hard time imagining that someone would do something so stupid on purpose.
We've been married for almost ten years, and our relationship with our parents is fine. Anyway, I decided I had to see it for myself! I took an hour off from work. My husband and I went to pick up our daughter from school. We stood there and waited for the ubiquitous couple to appear around the corner. We took my daughter, and I started walking not toward the house, but toward my parents.
I wondered what they were doing, why they were hanging around. Yes, they really did take me for a fool. My mother knew perfectly well that my daughter had to leave at 11:15, and that was exactly when they arrived. I didn't start a row in front of the child. My husband and daughter went home, and I went to work. In the evening I called my mother and asked what kind of circus it was. I told her that I knew they did this almost every day.
I try to convey that they were depriving the child of at least some of her independence. But they didn't listen. They nod and agree, and then do their own thing… My mother said she doesn't trust my husband to remember to pick her up from kindergarten. I don't know how to explain to her that this is nonsense…
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