We can't find a compromise in our relations with my husband's parents.
They keep imposing their help on us, and if we refuse, they get offended because they meant well, and if we accept it, they keep reminding us about it.
We moved into my apartment, which I bought before the wedding, but which was being renovated. At first, my husband and I planned to do some light cosmetic repairs, and then, when we had the money, gradually renovate everything. But my in-laws didn't like the idea. They argued with us that it was a stupid idea, that we would have to pay twice for the same thing, which didn't make sense. It's better to do everything from scratch, which would save money, effort, and time.
My husband and I understood this, of course, but we simply did not have the money for major renovations, and we did not want to live in a state of prolonged renovation. It was not in our plans to offend my husband's parents, but we made a big mistake: we agreed to accept their help.
No, there were no problems with the repair, everything went like clockwork, there is no denying it. The work that we thought would take a year or more was completed in a very short time. But then we were reminded about this repair at every opportunity.
Our washing machine broke down once, my husband only mentioned it, so a few days later his parents brought us a newly bought washing machine. We didn't want to accept it, so my mother-in-law immediately clutched her heart, my father-in-law frowned – they were giving us a gift from the bottom of their hearts, they wanted to help young people. And then at every opportunity they reminded us how much they helped us, how much they did for us, how grateful we should be.
We are grateful, but we would do without their help, especially when it is so mandatory.
I am pregnant now, and my in-laws have already filled the entire nursery with all kinds of necessary things. Another reason to remind us how good they are. I have no strength left.
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