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People have been gossiping since prehistoric times. In primitive societies, people learned about important events, news, and social changes through gossip. Gossip also allowed weaker group members to unite against stronger or aggressive individuals.
Gossip was also used in later times, for example, at the courts of kings. We are also gossiping now. On the “Psychological Support” platform, they talk about why everyone loves this business so much.
So what function does gossip play in the modern world and how to counteract its negative consequences?
- Gossip can perform an integrative function. The exchange of gossip indicates similar values or characters of the people who communicate with each other. Also, spreading gossip can create a sense of protection. Any dissimilarity leads to fear in society or at least anxiety. Therefore, the differences of individual personalities cause surprise, condemnation and, as a result, the spread of gossip within a group of individuals.
- It may seem that discussing gossip reduces aggression within the group:it is possible to avoid an open conflict by gossiping. But more often gossip breaks the trust between people. As a result: social bonds are broken and the level of support in the group decreases.
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- People who are gossiped about can self-esteem decrease, they stop being self-confident. Therefore, it is necessary to remain sensitive and respect the dignity of others in conversations. If someone starts gossiping with you, it's better to change the topic of conversation.
- If gossip is being spread about you – don't make excuses. Your violent reaction to gossip may, on the contrary, encourage people to continue discussing false information about you .
- Do not share personal or important information with people you do not know. If you want to talk – contact a trusted friend or a qualified psychotherapist.